Sunday, December 1, 2013

Jeremiah's Birth Story

I had my weekly OBGYN appointment on Friday, March 1st.  I was seeing Dr. Williams that day.  The first thing she asked me was, "So, how long are you going to keep this baby in there?"  She's a pretty funny lady :)  I told her that I really was hoping he'd be born in the next couple of days.  The appointment continued and later on she asked how Kaylee was doing.  That's when I spoke up and shared with her why I was hoping that Jeremiah would be born that weekend.  It was because Kaylee was due to have a long day at Riley the following Monday with an 8 hour chemo infusion.  When I told Dr. Williams this, she frowned.  She then proceeded to tell me that she was the Dr. on call that weekend and if I wanted to, she could see if she could get me in for an induction the next morning.  I told her that I thought that was a good idea and she began the process.  Luckily the hospital (IU West) was not very busy that weekend and I was scheduled for an induction at 8:00 AM Saturday, March 2nd!  Of course there is never a guarantee that the induction will be successful, so there was still a chance that Jeremiah would not be born. 

So, Saturday morning, Ryan and I headed to the hospital and checked in to the maternity unit.  Our wonderful nurse was Jenn.  She asked me a bunch of questions and eventually we started the pitocin drip around 9:05.  I believe she started me off at 4 mL per minute and immediately my contractions were more regular (I had been having them since about 18-20 weeks in my pregnancy) at every 3 minutes.  Though they were not any stronger than I had been having.  Jenn came in every 1/2 hour to an hour to up my dosage of pitocin, eventually getting up to 8 mL per minute.  At 7 mL per minute my contractions basically stopped.  I was beginning to wonder if we were going to have a baby that day.  It was around 11:30-12:00 and I could tell that no progress had been made.  Jenn shared that she was also getting concerned.  However, once she upped my dosage to 8 mL I could definitely tell a difference.  My contractions had definitely gotten stronger...not so much more regular though.  So, as I had done several times that morning (and throughout my pregnancy) I got up to use the bathroom.  I did that because often times, a full bladder was the cause of increased contractions for me and I just wanted to see if I really was making progress.  As I was washing my hands I felt a pop and then there was a big gush of fluid hitting the bathroom floor.  My water broke!  I called out to Ryan to have him let Jenn know my water broke.  I had previously told her that I progress really quickly when my water is broken (never had it break on its own before) and that I would like to have an epidural before that happened. 
So, my water broke around 12:30.  I got my epidural, enduring several contractions while I was waiting for that, and Jenn checked my progress around 1 PM.  I was already at 8-9 cm (having been 3-4 when she checked me on admission).  I know for sure I went from 4 to almost 9 in half an hour!  I'm so glad she believed me when I told her I would be fast.  As my contractions continued, Jeremiah's heart beat would drop.  At times his heart rate was as low as mine, which is too low for a baby.  I was worried about him, for sure!  Jenn's best guess at the cause was the pressure of the contractions on his head as he was making his way down the birth canal.  I just knew I didn't like his heart rate dropping.  He eventually stabilized to my relief. 

Right as my water broke, Dr. Williams showed up at the hospital.  She had just enough time to get changed and check me around 1:30 and I was complete and ready to push.  We had Dr. Williams and 3 nurses in the room with us.  Jenn, of course, Mindy was ready to take care of Jeremiah, and Nicky, the surgical assistant, was ready to help collect the cord blood. 

I began pushing right around 1:30.  I must say that this was probably the most physically taxing delivery on me.  I would make a lot of progress with him, but then he would slip back.  I had to have oxygen between pushes and I was beginning to get really tired and I was beginning to doubt my ability to deliver him this way.  Everyone was really encouraging, but I was almost done. 

At about 1:45-1:50, I began to pray, "Lord, please help me have the strength to get this baby out."  And I prayed while I was pushing.  Three more contractions and Jeremiah was born!  The doctor even commented, "I don't know what you did those last three contractions, but it definitely made all the difference."  Jeremiah was born at 1:56 (or 1:57, or 1:58...there was some issues with the exact time) with his hand up by his face. 

He came out with a very pouty look on his face and then began crying...with a very strong cry.  Finally seeing him brought tears to my eyes.  They placed him on my chest and we looked into each others eyes.  I finally got to see and hold my baby boy!

Thursday, March 28, 2013

The Perfect Example

Jesus is the perfect example of how we are to react to times of suffering. 

Matthew 26:36-44
36 Then Jesus went with them to the olive grove called Gethsemane, and he said, “Sit here while I go over there to pray.” 37 He took Peter and Zebedee’s two sons, James and John, and he became anguished and distressed. 38 He told them, “My soul is crushed with grief to the point of death. Stay here and keep watch with me.”

39 He went on a little farther and bowed with his face to the ground, praying, “My Father! If it is possible, let this cup of suffering be taken away from me. Yet I want your will to be done, not mine.”

40 Then he returned to the disciples and found them asleep. He said to Peter, “Couldn’t you watch with me even one hour? 41 Keep watch and pray, so that you will not give in to temptation. For the spirit is willing, but the body is weak!”

42 Then Jesus left them a second time and prayed, “My Father! If this cup cannot be taken away[a] unless I drink it, your will be done.” 43 When he returned to them again, he found them sleeping, for they couldn’t keep their eyes open.

44 So he went to pray a third time, saying the same things again.

Mark 14:32-36
32 They went to the olive grove called Gethsemane, and Jesus said, “Sit here while I go and pray.” 33 He took Peter, James, and John with him, and he became deeply troubled and distressed. 34 He told them, “My soul is crushed with grief to the point of death. Stay here and keep watch with me.”

35 He went on a little farther and fell to the ground. He prayed that, if it were possible, the awful hour awaiting him might pass him by. 36 “Abba, Father,”[a] he cried out, “everything is possible for you. Please take this cup of suffering away from me. Yet I want your will to be done, not mine.”

Luke 22:39-44
39 Then, accompanied by the disciples, Jesus left the upstairs room and went as usual to the Mount of Olives. 40 There he told them, “Pray that you will not give in to temptation.”

41 He walked away, about a stone’s throw, and knelt down and prayed, 42 “Father, if you are willing, please take this cup of suffering away from me. Yet I want your will to be done, not mine.” 43 Then an angel from heaven appeared and strengthened him. 44 He prayed more fervently, and he was in such agony of spirit that his sweat fell to the ground like great drops of blood.

In these three books, you can see how Jesus felt about His upcoming task.  I have underlined the terms anguished, distressed, and deeply troubled. 
Anguish is defined as 'severe mental or physical pain or suffering' (dictionary.com)
Distress is defined as 'extreme anxiety, sorrow, or pain' (dictionary.com)
In the passage from Luke you can see Jesus was so deeply troubled that he was reacting physically.  In both Matthew and Mark they quote Jesus saying that He was grieving to the point of death and He did not want to be left alone!

So, to me, from Jesus' example, when faced with a problem or some type of suffering it is ok to be afraid, sad, and confused (mental pain to me is confusion), to the point of being physically broken.  Have you had times when you were so sad or anxious that you were physically ill?  I know I have. 

But what are we to do besides instinctually react in these ways?  How do we feel better?  What did Jesus do?  First, he surrounded himself with friends (even though they fell asleep when they should have been supporting him, but that's another lesson).  And most importantly, He prayed and gave God control of the situation.  He asked that if it was at all possible, that God find some other way to accomplish His goal.  But that if there was no other way and that this was God's will He would obey.  Again, to me, this says that it is ok to pray for things to be different, for the suffering to be taken away, but we also need to be willing to endure any trial if it is God's will for our life. 

So to recap this point:  It's ok to be afraid when we're facing troubles.  Prayer and support through Godly friends is the most effective way to get through these rough times.  Most importantly, let God take control of every aspect of your life and follow His will.  The difficult times are the greatest times of growth!

This was the topic of one of my devotionals this morning.  The devotional from In Touch with Dr. Stanley.  Here is a quote from it:
"Let Jesus' Gethsemane experience be your example in times of trouble.  Our Savior trusted His Father fully and accepted His will.  Remember, the Father is in control.  He limits the length and intensity of the pain.  And, while He hurts to see His children suffer, He loves us enough to allow the difficulty.  There is a beautiful harvest of growth and purpose if we embrace His road for us."

 

Thursday, February 14, 2013

Love Challenge

Valentine's Day; a day we set aside each year to show our loved ones how much we love them.  But is that where it should end?  Many complain that Valentine's Day has become so commercialized that it has lost its meaning...its specialness.  This year I'm going to challenge myself and I hope that many of you will too. 

The challenge:
Don't just show love to your loved ones or those who are 'easy' to love.  Love everyone especially those you find most difficult to love.  That could be someone in your family who has wronged you; a friend who has hurt you deeply; a stranger on the street; a cashier at the supermarket who has a bad attitude; a criminal; a political leader who you disagree with on every political point; the list goes on and on and on....
The reason for this challenge...God's word!  His Command!

Luke 10:25-28 NLT

25 One day an expert in religious law stood up to test Jesus by asking him this question: “Teacher, what should I do to inherit eternal life?” 26 Jesus replied, “What does the law of Moses say? How do you read it?” 27 The man answered, “‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your strength, and all your mind.’ And, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’28 “Right!” Jesus told him. “Do this and you will live!”


John 13:34-35 NLT

34 So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other.  35 Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.”


John 15:12 NLT

12 This is my commandment: Love each other in the same way I have loved you.

And how did Jesus show his love for us?  On the cross.  He gave his life so that we may live forever with Him!  That is the kind of love He wants us to show others.  Quite the challenge, right?

So, how do we do it?  How do we show others that we truly love them?  How do we love the unlovable the way that Christ loved everyone?  Look to God's Word for guidance:

Romans 15:7 NLT

7 Therefore, accept each other just as Christ has accepted you so that God will be given glory.

First: Accept each other. God created each one of us and He does not make mistakes. He has planned out our entire lives even before we were born.  Christ accepts us, faults and all.  We need to show others that same acceptance.

Galatians 6:2 NLT

2 Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ.

Second:  Help each other.  If you see someone struggling, offer help.  It can be a physical struggle or an emotional struggle.  The help can be physical help if you are able or it can be as simple as diligently praying for that person in their struggles.  One thing I have learned over the last several months is that prayer is EXTREMELY powerful!

Ephesians 5:21 NLT

21 And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

Third:  There's that word in the Bible that causes many of us to cringe - Submit.  What exactly does it mean to submit?

Submit - to give or yield to the power or authority of another; to allow ones self be subjected to some kind of treatment; to defer to another's judgement, opinion, decision
(Definition taken from Dictionary.com)

And we are to submit to others out of reverence for Christ (which if you don't know or forgot, reverence is defined as a feeling or attitude of deep respect tinged with awe.  Also from Dictionary.com).

OK, this one is probably one of the toughest ones to put into action.  We all have our own opinions and our own way that we like to do things.  We need to put that aside and submit to the way that someone else would like to do things or submit to their way of thinking...ouch!  Pride can really get in the way of this one.  My opinion on how best to accomplish this is to be flexible and open-minded (and forgiving).  Do this out of awesome respect for Christ!  One more word that might help with this aspect:

Humility


1 Thessalonians 5:13 NLT

13 Show them great respect and wholehearted love because of their work. And live peacefully with each other.

Finally:  This point follows the previous very well.  Show others respect and wholehearted love.  This will also, at times, take great humility on our part.  This verse reminds me of the Golden Rule.  And the word wholehearted in this verse shows that it shouldn't be a shallow love; a 'just on the surface' love.  Love with your whole heart and soul!  A very difficult challenge indeed!

So that is the challenge I am giving myself beginning this Valentine's Day.  I hope that many of you will join me in loving others.  Just think of how many lives would be touched if we all showed everyone wholehearted, lay my life down for you, accept you no matter what, help you in your time of need, submit to you even though I may disagree love. 







Sunday, January 27, 2013

Update: Beginning the Delayed Intensification Phase

2 Thessalonians 3:16
Now may the Lord of peace Himself give you His peace at all times and in every situation.  The Lord be with you all.

1 Thessalonians 5:18
Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God's will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.

Monday Kaylee begins her Delayed Intensification Phase.  This phase will last 8 weeks and will include several new chemotherapy drugs.  She will also have a couple of week long bursts of steroid treatments, but she should not have the severe side effects that she had when she took the steroids before. 
Tomorrow morning at 9AM, Kaylee goes to the outpatient clinic for IV Vincristine, IV Doxorubicin, and Intrathecal Methotrexate (given via spinal tap).  Monday evening she will begin her first burst of Dexamethasone (the steriod) with her second burst two weeks later.  Our hope is that the Doxorubicin does not give her the severe nausea that she had with the IV Methotrexate.  We are hoping for an easy transition into this intense phase, but we really don't know what to expect; how her body will react.  At the end of the week, she will be receiving a PEG Asparaginase shot.  This was the chemotherapy that they believe caused her to have the clot before.  Previously, her doctors had mentioned possibly beginning the Lovenox shots again as a preventative, but we don't know yet if that is what they will advise us to do.  I will try to find that out tomorrow.  Maybe they will just take the 'wait and see' approach since those shots were very painful for her.  She will continue to routinely go in for treatments on Mondays and should have a week off during the week of the 18th of February. 
On the 25th, her meds will change again.  She will again get Intrathecal Methotrexate, and two new IV chemos:  Cytarabine and Cyclophosphamide.  She will also begin taking the oral chemo Thioguanine that she will continue to the end of this phase.  During the week of the 25th and the week of March 4th, she is supposed to get the IV Cytarabine 4 days in a row beginning on Mondays. 

My due date is March 8th.  This coming Friday I will be having an ultrasound to check on Jeremiah's size (due to my gestational diabetes).  If he is on the large side, they may decide to set an induction date.  But my maintenance of my sugar levels has been really good, so I am not expecting an issue, unless he is just a big boy. 

Kaylee's doctors have told us to expect her to need to stay at the hospital at some point during this phase of treatment due to an illness of some sort.  I am hoping that Kaylee defies the odds and does not need to do this.  With the approach of Jeremiah's delivery in conjuction with this intense phase of treatment for her...the timing is not ideal.  But I am confident that whatever happens, God will see us through it.  As long as we depend on Him, things will work out for our good.  If we are faced with the most difficult situation, it will only make us stronger.  With the Lord on our side it will not break us as long as we make a conscious effort to lean on Him. 

On the outside it may look like this would be the worst time of our lives (mixed with the joy of new family member), but in actuality, it is a time of great spiritual growth for our family.  My hope and prayer is that through this trial we develop the strength and ability to grow spiritually even in our times of prosperity.  It is easier to lean on the Lord in times of trouble...when you are brought to your knees realizing you can't make it through a difficult situation on your own.  It is quite another thing to continue to give God complete control and to continue to be a witness for His unending faithfulness and grace when life is easy.  When you are not faced with trials and difficulties it is very easy to lose focus and to let the world get in the way of continuing to grow in the Lord and share what you learn with others.

So, the next several months will be full for us to say the least.  I thank all of you for your offers to help in many ways.  Asking for help is an area that I personally struggle with.  Perhaps that is one of the lessons I am learning through this.  What can I say...I am a DIY girl :O)  I know though that there are times coming in the very near future where I won't be able to do it myself (though I still may try).  Thank you in advance for stepping in and taking over for me...making me change that part of my personality!

I will post updates on how Kaylee is doing during her clinic visit tomorrow on Facebook.  Thank you again for your support and prayers.